What His Kiss Is Really Saying

What His Kiss Is Really Saying: The Notebook

There’s a big difference between a peck on the cheek and a full blown pash, but what about everything in between? From eskimo kisses to earlobe nuzzling, here, my friend, is what his kiss is really saying.

The date was awesome, but then he purses his lips together and bang, the goodnight kiss is over in under a second. Is he shy? Is he just not that into you? Or is he paranoid that his breath wreaks after the garlic bread he ate with dinner? We gals spend a lot of time trying to decode the meaning behind a kiss, but there is an easier way. Enter Body Language and Kissing Expert Katia Loisel. Katia knows a lip-smacking-lot about kissing – and then some. “His kissing style and how he chooses to kiss you reveals all the tell-tale information about his interest, attraction and level of commitment,” explains Katia, who is also a spokesperson for Australia’s most popular online dating site, eHarmony. But while there’s no doubt that the French Kiss is the most passionate and arousing of all kisses, it’s a combination of other body language traits that reveal if he’s a keeper or not. “His true level of physical and emotional intimacy are not only revealed through kissing, but also by his passion and displays of tenderness, and nurturing and protectiveness, which can be communicated through kisses such as the butterfly, forehead, earlobe, head and eskimo kiss.” Here’s your kiss-by-kiss guide…

Closed Mouth Kiss

The trickiest of all decode – what does it mean? “In the early stages of courtship, a closed mouth kiss is used to test the waters and indicates that he’s still respectfully cautious and not quite comfortable getting up close and personal,” explains Katia. “A gentle closed mouth kiss, that’s more a brush of the lips, also stimulates the pleasure seeking nerves called C-fibers. This heightening emotion and attraction opens the door to some serious romance.”

However, Katia warns that closed mouthed kisses in long-term relationships can be a sign that the relationship has lost some of its intimacy and needs work.

What His Kiss Is Really Saying

“Mouth open or closed? Let me assess the situation….” No Strings Attached, on Netflix

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French Kiss

Open wide for some serious action… “The French Kiss is without a doubt the most passionate and arousing of all the kisses, as we explore each other’s mouths, tongues and lips,” says Katia. “But the French Kiss does more than just tell us whether someone is a great kisser. Kissing is a sensual smorgasbord that activates all five of our senses and sends a direct signal to the emotional brain, or Limbic sensual centres associated with love, lust and passion. This exchange of sensory information provides non-verbal clues about the other person – their genetics, compatibly and level of commitment. Kissing also releases semiochemicals in the mouth, which, mixed with our own saliva, provide information that helps determine if we’re suited.”

However, the French Kiss also comes with a warning. “If he’s always going straight for the French Kiss or pash with little tenderness or nurturing, chances are it’s just a casual fling he’s after.”

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The Forehead Kiss

Awww, true love, or is it? “This tender and romantic kiss says ‘I care about you – put your trust in me,’” says Katia.  “This gesture allows your partner to nestle you close as you dip your head and close your eyes as a sign of trust and vulnerability.”

Katia adds that a tender forehead kiss or caress can be both nurturing and arousing, as touch-messages received from trigeminal nerves in your forehead are processed by your brain. “Look for other non-verbal signs such as the closeness of their heart window and groin,” suggests Katia. “A forehead kiss where your torso and groins touch communicates protectiveness and lust, whereas distance between your torsos and groin may indicate a more platonic brotherly sisterly kiss.”

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Butterfly Kiss

You know he’s the one when you get butterflies and gives you butterfly kisses. “The butterfly kiss indicates trust, tenderness and a close physical and emotional intimacy,” explains Katia. How to master it? “Flutter your eyelashes against your partner’s or bring your faces and eyelashes together until your eyelashes flutter together.”

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A Kiss On The Lips

A closed kiss on the lips reveals that they really like you and are respectfully cautious. “It’s says, ‘I’m really into you and I respect you and I will follow your lead,’” explains Katia. “While an open mouthed kiss on the lips says, ‘I’m so attracted to you and dying to kiss you!’”

What His Kiss Is Really Saying

Kiss snap! Open, slow, sensual… If only they were both right way up. Spider-Man

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A Kiss On The Nose

Don’t underestimate the power of a gentle nose kiss. “Within a couple, kissing on the nose is an intimate and affectionate gesture that says, ‘You’re beautiful,’” explains Katia. “And if you haven’t yet had your first kiss, it’s a flirty way of saying, ‘I really want to kiss you on the lips but I’m playing it safe.’” Want more of that lip action? “If you want him to kiss you on the lips, return his nose kiss and let the flirting begin!”

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On The Hair Or Head

No, he’s not just admiring your blowdry. It’s deeper than that! “Kissing on the head or hair is a nurturing and intimate gesture that shows affection and protectiveness and indicates a close emotional bond,” says Katia. “It says, ‘I’m here for you.’”

What His Kiss Is Really Saying

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A Kiss On The Shoulder

The lips needn’t be the only body part to show his intimacy. “A kiss on the shoulder is a sign of both emotional and physical intimacy,” explains Katia. “It says, ‘I’m here for you and I want to be close to you.’”

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Cheek Kiss

Often seen as an affectionate platonic greeting, a peck on the cheek can have multiple meanings and is a sign of affection. “A quick peck on the cheek can serve numerous purposes,” says Katia. “It can be a platonic greeting or ‘hello’, a kiss that says ‘I like you as a friend’, or a method of getting into your intimate zone and testing the waters.”

Look for more cues. “If their lips linger there and they seem to breathe you in, they’re showing interest in a shy way that respects your personal space. This kiss says, ‘I really like and respect you and want to kiss you, but I’m not sure how to proceed.’” Perhaps you could show him…

Earlobe Kiss

Intimate and affectionate, this is the kiss for action. “The earlobe kiss is a sensual kiss that often indicates a greater degree of physical and emotional intimacy,” explains Katia. “Stimulation of the earlobes through kissing, licking, blowing and touch can be particularly arousing, as it stimulates three cranial nerves; the vagal, glossopharyngeal and facial nerves simultaneously.”

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